Most people would assume Christian and I are getting married so young because we want to have sex.
News flash we already have. We decided to cut sex out however until we get married to focus on the intimacy between us and God.
Sex is maybe 20% off it. The other 80% is learning to love someone else well.
20 and engaged looks like,
Figuring out health benefits
Finding a job that can provide not for one, but two
Going to the ER the first week of living together
Dividing chores
Going to bed together even if we just got in a bickerment
It is loving your parent well through the very thick of it, just like God loves us through our darkest moments
It is talking about the nitty-gritty stuff that is more than dating.
It is leaning to become one with God.
It is not easy.
A relationship built on sex is a relationship that is built on sand, it crumbles.
A relationship built on learning to love someone else well, caring for another human, putting God first, being able to listen, and put your pride aside is a relationship built on brick, steady, and firm.
It’s growing up. It’s taking on the responsibility of caring for another human. Grocery shopping for two, making dinner for two, being on WiFi with another person lol (My Fiancé is a gamer)
So why do we do this? If it’s not just about the sex and you have to put work in, why do it?
Here is why,
I have been blessed with a loving man of God. He cares for me, and everyone around him well. He sticks up for me and I could go one. The love we have for one another is meant to come in unity before God. It is meant to be shared and to go out into the world and leave nuggets of Jesus. A love of unity is powerful.
Ecclesiastes 4v9-12
Marriage is a divine union with God and with your significant other, it is a blessing.
So for anyone wondering, that is why.
